Do you ever get the feeling that you’ve missed something? That it’s slipping through the cracks to the realm of the forgotten? The abyss of nothingness? And the worst part: you can’t even pinpoint what it is—a Remembrall won’t help here. That feeling is frustrating to no end and sends my anxiety into hyperdrive.
My shoulders prickle. Breathing shallows. And the stomach is one big knot. That’s what I battled all weekend. And for what? Nothing…I think…I hope.
Periodically, these attacks come on, and there’s little I can do but wait for them to pass. I do try to calm my reactions. Sometimes it works. Other times, not so much. Still, there’s a chance. I know I’m not alone, and if you have the misfortune of experiencing this torturous feeling, here are some of the things I do to try to combat it. Hopefully, it will help you find some kind of relief.
- Do a mental check (or make a list) to see if there’s something that was forgotten
- I usually do this several times throughout the day to be sure
- Look back and see if you can pinpoint what brought this feeling on
- Sometimes, if I can identify the origin, I can figure out how to address it
- Tell yourself (several times if need be) that it is okay to be human
- I know I make mistakes; when they happen, I’ll try to rectify them as best I can
- Tell a trusted friend/loved one; they may be able to help or provide moral support
- Confession: I suck at this one! I would much rather internalize things
- If possible, try to do something constructive/get ahead with something
- That way, if it turns out I have missed something, I have a little “buffer” in my to-do list to make things right (sometimes this happens, sometimes it doesn’t…see #3)
- Do something relaxing: take a bath, make some tea, read a book
- There’s something to be said for self-care (to my husband: you are NOT allowed to use this statement against me)
Overall, know that you’re not in this alone. I know that many times it feels like you are, but you’re not! As the late, great Maya Angelou said, “You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated.” Don’t let anxiety win.
‘Til next time!